Speak of your love out loud.  It will melt your beloved’s heart.

I’ve never given much thought to written versus oral communication until recently with the podcast launch.  Is one more powerful than the other?  Does one form of communication touch and motivate hearts more than the other?  I would venture to say, yes.

God spoke the world into existence, he didn’t write it.  Although we have the ancient scriptures inspired by the Holy Spirit, I believe the most powerful way we can touch people is through being present in their lives and speaking actual words out loud.  The words reverberate through their ears and hearts into their souls.

I am much more comfortable typing out my thoughts behind a computer screen.  There’s more risk to speak out loud.  I risk saying the wrong thing and sounding silly.  I risk becoming very emotional and crying while speaking.  There is just something very convicting and emotionally moving about saying things out loud.  I had a friend (yes, a new Floridian friend!) who was vulnerably speaking before a very large crowd this weekend.  She was caught off guard when she started to choke up as she spoke about her personal story.

Even though there are reasons to follow the advice of many and write an exquisite letter to the love of your life.  I want to encourage you to speak of your love out loud to your sweetie, especially if you tend to be reserved and are not a wordy individual.  Save $5 on a card and speak from your heart.

Honest, even introverts will become pools of warm quivering love when they hear the right words.

How to say it out loud?  It’s easier when you have a general idea of what you want to say.

Answer these questions about your sweetheart.

1. How are they kind? When have you seen their kindness?  How did that make you feel?

 For example:  “When you stopped to buy girlscout cookies and you chatted with the little girl about her badges, I felt proud of you for being interested in her world.”

2. When are they filled with joy? How can you encourage their joy?

For example: “Only you could have caught a softball in mid-somersault!  I’m so glad you found a way to de-stress during the week with your softball team.  I love coming to watch you.”

3. How do they help you become a more godly individual? Where has their example changed you?

For example:  “I appreciate how you don’t over-react when I over-react.  One of us has to have a sane head.  I am working on my anger and I am glad you are showing me how to find peace.”

4. How do they help your life feel more satisfying? How do they fill your soul?

For example:  “I am glad that we are in this parenting job together.  I love being the mother to your children.  Your fun-filled spirit counters my serious side.  The kids need to see this.  I also need to be reminded not to take life too seriously.”

5. Thank them for a specific way that they model Jesus.

     For example:  “Thank you for the easy way you forgive me.  I hope that I can reflect that back to you.

Now pray.

What will blow your spouse away is if you don’t just say these things.  You pray these over your beloved.  You thank God for the spouse he has given you and all their wonderful qualities.  You ask God to strengthen your bond.  You ask God to help you both realize the purpose he has for your particular marriage.  Place your marriage in Jesus’ hands and ask for him to help you both grow in faith.

We are saying it out loud at Sex Chat for Christian Wives (forchristianwives.com)

As an ambivert, I enjoy reading about ideas more than listening.  To be honest, I haven’t explored that many podcasts aside from Belah at Delight Your Marriage and Juli Slattery at Java with Juli and an occasional random show that may pop up in my twitter feed.  So, yeah, the new podcast gig I’m undertaking with J, Chris, and Gaye is completely opening my eyes to a vast new world of technology.

TODAY!  Our podcast is live.  We have three episodes all queued up and ready for you.  Please, go check us out!

We hope to show you how you can have tasteful, yet candid, discussions about sexual intimacy.  Part of healing and becoming whole is to bring dark things to light.  We want to bring sexual intimacy out of the darkness where Satan likes to twist things into the light for you to explore it with Jesus.

Follow this link to hear what we have to say about

“Getting in the Mood.”

“Positions”

And

“50 Shades of Here-We-Go-Again”

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