Some marriages are born with two partners who possess ‘marriage intuition.’ Relational understanding comes easy for them.
My husband and I did not possess this intuition.
As weird as it is to say, I’m thankful for the time I felt desperate and alone in our marriage. It took this dark season to tear down my wall of self-sufficiency. Not only was I self-sufficient, I was someone everyone liked. For some reason, though, my husband didn’t like me anymore. Frankly, I wasn’t so thrilled with him, either.
We had no idea how to repair our relationship that once had been so easy and passionate.
It was nothing less than God’s miracle. In 8 short weeks, we developed tools to have understanding of each other’s inner workings and how we could be better spouses.
I’ve mentioned this course before. It’s called Dynamic Marriage.
Dynamic Marriage has scriptural foundation. It is not, however, a Bible study.
It is very interactive. It is not your typical ‘class.’ There is limited lecture. The key to the whole class is to help create a neutral zone so hot topics can be broached. There is guided discussion between you and your spouse.
It is discussion you may not have known how to have or you didn’t know was important to have.
The class sizes are small and very confidential. We quickly connected with our classmates and became dear friends by the time it was all over.
Before participating in Dynamic Marriage, we had attended a couple of other marriage seminars that were mostly lecture. None of these impacted our daily life like Dynamic Marriage.
Dynamic Marriage classes are led by trained facilitators who volunteer their time. Facilitators receive absolutely no monetary compensation.
My husband and I became trained facilitators because we wanted to share with others these life changing skills. Being able to watch marriages achieve their God-desired potential is a priceless reward.
The fee for the class is nominal when compared to private therapy or other kinds of intensive weekends. What you are charged is only enough to cover the media material (books, CD’s and homework journals).
So, why did I call this Thanksgiving in the Bedroom?
Dynamic Marriage was part of God’s plan for our bedroom even though this class doesn’t focus solely on sexual intimacy.
The tools and insight we learned are the reason fulfilling sexual intimacy was restored in our marriage. I learned that sexual intimacy is a necessary ingredient to the whole of marriage. I used to see sexual intimacy as water and emotional and spiritual intimacy as fragrant oil. Oil and water don’t mix. When truly, sexual intimacy is just as much fragrant oil as the others, combine them to make a wonderful and homogenous aroma of harmony.
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It is a class where you focus on yourself. There is no finger pointing. You are only allowed to talk about yourself in the group setting. It is a very safe and encouraging atmosphere.
Now, years later, conflict and obstacles still appear in our marriage. When it does appear, we fall back on what we learned in this class to resolve conflict. We have the tools to hammer out the problems.
Maybe, Dynamic Marriage is part of God’s plan for you. If you are in a good marriage, but you desire something outstanding, consider Dynamic Marriage.
If you are in a hurting marriage and desire a better connection that can lead to outstanding, consider Dynamic Marriage. It’s worth a shot!
The surprising benefit of the class was that much of what I learned could also be applied to the other relationships in my life, whether family or friends.
If you would like to learn more about Dynamic Marriage (or any other their other 5 classes) go to marriage dynamics website. You can find a class in your area from this link, as well.
If you have specific questions for me about this class, feel free to email me at pearlmail3@gmail.com.
If you know of someone whose marriage is suffering and may benefit from reading about this resource, please forward this post to them.
I am sure there are other interactive classes that help make a radical change within marriage. Please, if you have participated in any other class or event that changed your marriage in a radical way, leave the names and links in the comments. I love to share resources that work to build better marriages for God’s Kingdom!
I receive absolutely NO COMPENSATION for this endorsement.
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