Contemplate your sensual natures, ladies. “Giving Yourself Permission,” means allowing your heart and physical nature to open up to the possibility of POSITIVE sensual experiences.
The shape and form this sensuality takes is different for each woman. I just want you to be open to explore the possibilities in your mind. If you give yourself permission to be a sexually charged wife, only you and your husband will know how this unfolds. But, if there can be a change of mindset, even infinitesimal, for the low libido wife, BRAVA! That’s the beginning of getting connected to sexuality.
It can be done. I’m here to attest to it.
If dirty and immoral come to mind first, that is why I urge you to PRAY that God will reveal the truth of the gift of marital sexuality.
Don’t let your lovemaking be defined by the media. It isn’t dirty, nasty, filthy or scandalous. It’s scandalous that we’ve been led astray to believe that rockin’ sex is only for single people to enjoy; Or that sex and sensuality is wrong for Christians to pursue, let alone discuss. Your feminine mystique is a glorious gift of sexuality.
It’s also a scandal to be led to believe all lovemaking has to be energetic, loud and furious. Lovemaking can be quiet and calm and full of solace. But, again, it’s shape and form is for you and your husband to define.
Many of us do not know how to be connected to our desire. Sometimes, it is truly a physical limitation and we need to tap into our emotional and spiritual libidos. Tapping into these alternate routes toward sexual desire takes creativity and perseverance.
Without a healthy attitude about sex is permission pointless?
I don’t think so. I think it’s the opening of mind through permission that allows the healthy sexual attitude to grow. Permitting yourself to ponder if your beliefs about sex are truth, is the beginning of discovering your sexual role as a Christian wife in marriage. What do you wish your sex life could be? Have you been raised with false ideas regarding sexual intimacy?
Permitting yourself to ponder your inner sexual nature is the beginning of developing a goal for how you wish your sex life could be.
Permission is telling yourself, “It’s OK to think thoughts I’ve never thought before. It’s OK to know that sex is God-ordained and it is a gift to marriage. It’s OK to desire to be sexy. It’s OK to talk about sex.”
As a low libido wife, I can tell you, that repression is easy. Don’t think about your sexuality. Maybe the sexual conflict within your marriage will go away.
Giving yourself permission to think about sensuality and how it relates to God and faith is the beginning of becoming a wife who understands how sexuality is fundamental to marriage. Giving yourself permission means you can ruminate on all these things with no shame. Permitting yourself a sexual awakening is not shameful. It is full of blessing!!
I’d love to start a discussion about what you wish your sex life could look like.
WEEK 27
1 Timothy 4:4&5, “For everything God created is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with thanksgiving, because it is consecrated by the word of God and prayer.”
Positive Affirmation
I give myself permission to be a sexually charged wife.
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