Hot Flash. She’s the diva of menopausal symptoms. Everyone has heard of her.
For a few years, I’ve been dealing with several of her lesser known sisters.
Low-Libido
Night Sweat
Heart Palpitation
(Men, proceed reading at your own risk….)
Recently, one of the least known sisters, Unending Period, made a call.
What the heck? I thought things were supposed to slow down and cease altogether. But, no, I get the opposite.
Which led me to ask, “Why?”
My hormones aren’t balanced. Apparently, I’ve got plenty of estrogen and not enough testosterone and progesterone. My nurse practitioner helps my body create hormone harmony. I maintain a regimen of bio-identical progesterone and testosterone she prescribed several years ago.
This estrogen dominance is why I’ve seen red for months (yes! Months!). My progesterone is depleted to a point where even my cream supplement is not able to raise the levels enough to squelch Flo.
Here’s the basics of the monthly cycle.
In compliance with God’s command to go forth and multiply, ovaries in a fertile woman hatch an egg once a month. (BTW, baby girls are born with a couple million potential eggs in their ovaries. )
Each potential egg (called oocyte) is housed in a structure called a follicle. Once a month, several follicles are recruited to create a full-fledged egg (ovum). Usually, only one follicle completes its assignment. Our over-achieving ovum produces estrogen.
Once the egg is released, the follicle morphs into a structure called a corpus luteum. The corpus luteum produces progesterone. Progesterone from the follice and estrogen from the egg cause the thickening of the uterine lining. If the egg is fertilized, the corpus luteum continues to produce progesterone to keep the uterine lining healthy and in place for the new embryo (until the placenta can take over progesterone production).
If there is no fertilization, the progesterone and estrogen levels plummet and the uterine lining is released. The menstrual cycle resets to day 1.
Progesterone is an important key to stopping blood flow.
My eggs have finally decided it was time to take that permanent vacation. Since I have no eggs being released, there is no corpus luteum producing progesterone. I have no progesterone to turn off what my estrogen has started.
So, my doc has changed my progesterone prescription from a cream to a pill. I’m now taking 400 mg of micronized progesterone.
(According to this study, micronized progesterone is effective in raising blood serum levels.)
Unfortunately, the progesterone is only like a small bandaid applied to an arterial bleed.
If I were a patient woman, I could try to wait this out and continue with the progesterone. Or, I could switch over to essential oils or Shaklee supplements. I’ve had lots of wonderful friends give me sincere advice, sharing things that have worked for them. I love them all so much for caring.
Aside from my friends’ solutions, the gynecologist I visited offered other solutions such as birth control pills, an IUD, or a medicine that is not hormone driven but acts as a blood coagulant (tranexamic acid).
I’ve given it all careful consideration. What I have decided is right for me. It doesn’t necessarily have to be your solution.
When I started bio-identical hormones in my early 40’s, it wasn’t to stave off menopause. It was to help me gently transition through menopause. I always knew that the cycle of life God created includes menopause. I want to experience this milestone.
At the age of 49, I’m done having kids. I’m headed toward a more permanent solution, a uterine ablation. An ablation destroys the uterine lining. As much as my uterine lining has been a special part of my cyclical female nature for the past 39 years, I’m ready to move on.
For the past 4 months, when someone asks how I’m doing, I don’t hold back. Everyone and their sister knows that I’m currently paying the salaries for 28 workers at Kotex. I tell them partly to whine and partly to network and find out other women’s experiences.
Apparently, this is more common than I knew. Tons of my friends have had ablations! According to a University of Michigan research group, “prolonged and heavy bleeding are common,” in menopausal women.
It’s not surprising that stress aggravates all kinds of perimenopausal symptoms, including missed periods and prolonged periods.
Fortunately, I have had the support and prayers of a compassionate, level-headed husband and a wonderful group of friends. I’m not freaking out, just highly annoyed with my body.
What about sexual engagement in spite of this difficult circumstance?
Keep communication lines open and frequently check-in during the week.
“Hey, I hope you aren’t feeling neglected. Will you be OK to wait until I’m having a better day?” There will be better days than others. The very next day you are feeling better, let him know. And to tell you the truth, you may be a bit antsy yourself for some lovin’, too.
God’s amazing plan.
Around the age of 50, men may start to notice a decline in their sexual hunger. Hormone production slows down in men, too. Due to numerous reasons, testes may slow the production of testosterone. Male menopause is known as ‘andropause.’
Nurture other ways of intimacy.
Sex is great, but if health has passion on pause, pursue emotional and spiritual intimacy. Make time to talk about how you are feeling about this with him.
In spite of having a candid personality, I didn’t bother Dave with many details of my monthlies when we were younger. However, the only way he can understand what I’m now going through is to tell him! He’s not a mind-reader. The more I tell him, the more compassion he has been giving me.
He was especially sweet when I told him the embarrassing story of my level 5 gushing while on the gynecologist table. My body decided it was going to prove a point. I was mortified. And yet, it also moved me way up on the docket for the ablation.
In addition to being candid with your man, also, find time to hang out together, be lighthearted, flirt. Flirting may seem as appealing as a banana to Dracula, but try to remember life outside of the draining. This too shall pass.
Most importantly, ponder scripture and pray together as you both walk further down the path of life.
Final Thoughts
Given the restrictions on menstruating women in Leviticus 15 due to uncleanness, menopause would have allowed much more personal freedom to women of the Old Testatment. Luke 2:37, “Anna never left the temple but worshipped there with fasting and prayer, night and day.”
Ladies, reproductive capacity no longer determines our value. Christ does! I’m also glad that we are valued for our ability to, “bear fruit in every good work,” Col. 1:10.
Most of us prefer not to think about that as part of the circle of life. I’m prett sure it wasn’t addressed in this song.
https://youtu.be/GibiNy4d4gc
I pray for lighter flows and a successful procedure in your near future.
Thank you! I’ll keep you posted.
my Mom went through that for several years, so I probably have it to look forward to also. I hope you can find a solution.
I’m pretty confident the ablation is going to do the trick. I’ll post about after I have it. Who knows, you might not have to deal with it.
The ablation was such a blessing for me for heavy cycles and not to be rude, but large painful clotting also. But just so there’s no confusion, it will not stop the rollercoaster of emotions or pain from a uterine ccontraction (cramps). Your body still attempts the cycle, there’s just no visual effect. Prayers for relief for you.
Thx for the clarification and support. Talk about roller coaster of emotions, the mega dose of progesterone is really getting me down.
Well, you know my opinion — the endometrial ablation I had was marvelous! What a relief for me. I pray that you experience a reprieve from your struggles. Thanks for sharing your story for the benefit of other wives!
June 1 is Ablation day! I cannot wait.
I ‘just’ went through almost 40 days of bleeding in Nov / Dec. Tranexamic acid finally stopped it Christmas day, although I did have spotting into January if I exerted myself too much (like going for a walk or jumping in a snow bank). After countless Dr appointments and even a trip to ER, where they all assumed it was my hormones, I finally got an ultrasound (and then an MRI) that showed a uterine cyst and a hemorrhagic cyst on my right ovary. My cycle seems to be back to normal so far, but my second ultrasound says the ovarian cyst is still there. I go back for a 3rd in Oct.
I’m glad you finally were properly diagnosed. It’s a pain isn’t it? I go for an ultrasound next week.
It is a pain! Literally for me, as well haha :D. It was also terrifying to go through, because I’m on the uneducated side of the situation. The Dr’s are all so blasé about it and it turns out it wasn’t only the peri-menopause they all assumed it was. I finally got in to see a gynecologist who is really comforting and helpful with her answers. I hope your ablation goes well and brings the results you need 🙂
Thanks for the info and the laugh! I understand fully how our bodies keep the workers in feminine hygiene employed! Thinking I might be headed toward the “land of no more periods,” Flo decided to come back after a 14 week absence. Wish I could say I missed her… Anyway, know that you are covered in prayer both before, during, and after your procedure. Hopefully this will at least minimize the issue!
14 weeks! Dang, you were almost home free. I am most grateful for your prayers. I will let you know how it all turns out.