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OysterBed7 Blog
I hate sex. But, I’m trying to like it.
"I hate sex, but I’m trying not to." You might have landed on this blog because a phrase like this is running through your mind. I said a phrase very similar at the beginning of “phase 2” of our marriage. This blog was born in 2012 when I finally cleared the hurdle...
Take a Little Grit and Become a Pearl
People have asked me why I named this blog OysterBed7. Even though I write about sex a lot, it had little to do with being an aphrodisiac and much to do with lustrous pearls. When a piece of grit (sand or bacteria) annoys an oyster, the oyster secretes...
Holy Permission
This is week 30 of Unlock Your Libido: 52-week Sex Drive Transformation. This introductory post explains what it's all about. I gave myself permission to do something I’ve never done before. It’s not something that is wrong. But, some people have a negative...
Sweet Juicy Tingle
“How do you get the tingly feeling back? I love my husband, love making love with him, but generally the feelings I have when he touches me is ‘safe/secure/comfortable,’ not the ‘new/exciting/tingling’ feelings,” asks a reader commenting on Week 6: Sex Drive...
Where Did My Sexy Go?
The elusive female libido. Most people think that a young wife has no trouble with libido. Which isn't necessarily true. Numbers are beginning to say it isn't uncommon for the 18-30 year old female to suffer low libido. For married ladies with or without children,...
WHY SEX?
I like to know, “Why?” And I lean toward the scientific side. When my libido did a Houdini and disappeared, I wondered whether I'd ever again physically yearn for sex and questioned why a libido was necessary? I went as far to question why sex was even necessary. My...
Happy 4th Blogversary, OysterBed7!
4 years ago, March 2012, I started writing for the low sex drive Christian wife. There were several amazing Christian sex-positive blogs at that time, but none of them had a low libido wife’s perspective on the marriage bed. God purposed me to speak and write about...