Give him a treat for each of his five senses. These gifts are from your generosity of heart, not wallet. A low-libido wife can easily pull this together and in preparing, it may even spark a little desire. There is power in anticipation.
Sight
Treat his eyes, wear his favorite.
Use his visual nature to your advantage. What is the one thing already in your closet your husband likes to see you wear? Is it that black slinky dress, high heels and jeans, or nothing at all? Does he like a certain lipstick color? Does he like your hair up or down?
If it’s a slinky dress, or high heels and jeans, you can easily wear these with the kids running around. The hair and makeup are pretty easy to pull off, too. The birthday suit will have to wait for closed doors, but you can build his anticipation.
Tease him a bit even with kids in the room. Give him a little peak down your neckline, rub up against him, massage his tired and tight neck muscles, or pat his behind discreetly. You can do all of this in a way that says, ‘There’s more to come.’ It’s good for kids to see their parents being light hearted together.
(Do you not like how your body looks? See my guest post at J’s, ‘Permission to Feel Beautiful,’ and the rest of the Feel Beautiful 2015 series at Hot, Holy, & Humorous.)
Taste
Treat his tastebuds, make his favorite dish.
My mama always said, ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.’ After raising three sons, I can attest this is mostly true. Of course, a high drive husband will probably say this is the Plan B route to his heart.
Carve out time to create his favorite food.
Bonus points for getting a babysitter and making it an in-home dinner date.
Treat his nose, let him breathe you in. Wear his favorite fragrance.
Maybe he just likes to smell the soap on you after a shower. Or maybe he likes Chanel No. 5 wafting in your wake as you pass by wearing his favorite color.
Or, maybe he finds your sweaty bod sexy. If so, then go for a run and let him breathe in your essence.
Hear
Speak words that say he’s your favorite.
There is no greater gift than grace. He’s been a jerk to you on numerous occasions and let you down more than once. Set those dark moments aside and look into his heart. See his potential as a godly man who has the power of the Holy Spirit living inside him. Become his biggest fan. Place more weight on the moments where he gets it right.
Adore him with your words. If you aren’t nurturing his heart in this area right now, you run the risk of someone else out there adoring him (aside from your kids and his parents). You have to be that person for him.
The truest love is knowing someone’s failings and still being their cheerleader. If you need a mentor for this, look up how Jesus loved Peter in the Bible.
Touch
Treat his fingertips, let him touch his favorite.
Play the touching game. Place objects in a paper bag, have him reach in and, without looking, guess what they are by only touching. The objects could all revolve around one of his favorite hobbies, interests, or bedroom sport.
For example, if your husband’s 2nd favorite way to relax is fishing, you could put the following in the bag. But first let me say, no hooks! We don’t want another trip to the ER on Christmas Eve. Oh wait, that was New Year’s Eve and a story for another blog post. Anyway, you could place the following in a fishing themed ‘feel me’ bag: Squishy stink bait kept in its wrapper, fishing line, a ball cap, pocket knife, fish-net stockings.
Actually, if you want to get fancy, all five senses gifts could revolve around a theme. Let your creativity soar. (If you don’t have time to do this before Christmas think Valentine’s Day/Anniversary/Birthday/Or just for fun in the near future.)
I hope that you see how all the gift suggestions will touch his heart. Men may be all brusque and macho, but they loved to be romanced just as much as you do, I promise. Make the effort to woo him. It’ll definitely put some bank in the love bucket.
Don’t know what his favorites are? Ask him! What a great conversation starter.
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