Dr. Gert Holstege, of the University of Groningen, scanned the brains of 13 women while they experienced the ultimate moment of orgasm. He confirmed what we already know through instinct. Fear, stress, and alertness completely shut off during our climactic peak. The French coined a term about this moment of shut-down. La petite mort (or little death) became a euphemism for orgasm in the 1800s.
Leading up to the moment of orgasm, the amygdala (the center that houses our fear and anxiety) and the hippocampus (the center that helps us remain alert) both slowly power down. The pre-frontal cortex (the center of planning and decision making) also goes dark.
“At the moment of orgasm, women do not have any emotional feelings,” says Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in the Netherlands.
To help your heart, mind, and body climb the ladder to the epic destination, we need to shed stress, fear, and anxiety.
How do we do shut down our minds?
Well, the first step is not to stress about de-stressing. I don’t know about you, but it stresses me out to think I have to do one more thing even if that one more thing is to de-stress.
Fortunately, what I propose is just one click away. It could put an, “Ahhhh,” in your drive home from work. It could quiet tense shoulders as you fold laundry. If you listen to music throughout the day, try replacing it with the comforting audio below.
Ease your mind with scripture and music to move toward a more satisfying sexual encounter with your husband. Exhale your anxiety while inhaling God’s promises.
Listen as God’s Word is read with music in the background. It is very soothing. Like a massage for your soul. Below, please find two offerings for you.
Finding peace will help find your orgasm.
Additional Resources
See my post called, Effort of Ecstasy. It includes other practical helpful tips to reach the ultimate moment.
Or, begin reading the my Unlock Your Orgasm series beginning here: Introduction.
Also, see Gaye’s post via Calm.Healthy.Sexy, 8 Ways to Reduce Stress and Live Calmer this Year.
Thank you for the audio link. I relaxed in my chair while listening and when it was over, I realized that I had been crying. What peace it brought to me. Again, thank you. May God continue to bless you in your work.
I am so glad you experienced Jesus’ peace. Isn’t it truly the living water for our parched souls? (I covet your prayers to continue the work he has started in me. Thx.)
Thanks Bonny, for this great advice and for sharing the Scripture verses set to music. Wow, that is powerful! Thanks also for sharing my post.
I love sharing your ideas. They are do-able and not overwhelming. Thanks for the kind words, my friend. Talk with you soon. 🙂 (If you are reading this and have not seen Gaye and I’s latest collaboration, check out sexchatforchristianwives.com)