4 years ago, March 2012, I started writing for the low sex drive Christian wife. There were several amazing Christian sex-positive blogs at that time, but none of them had a low libido wife’s perspective on the marriage bed.
God purposed me to speak and write about intimate issues of womanhood and wifedom. I was in fifth grade the first time I was asked questions about ‘becoming a woman’ by my other 10 year old friends. Apparently, their moms weren’t forthcoming. Since I was the girl with visual evidence of early maturity and had a mom who gave me correct information, I became wikipedia on the playground.
4 decades later, I’m still seeing women starved for godly information about their sexuality; physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
I’ve tried to be genuine about our marriage difficulties and intelligent in writing about the many influences on my libido. My experience can reflect most any wife’s. I’m nothing special, just a woman who desperately wanted a united marriage to honor Christ and yes, to be happy not just holy.
I chased after the physical nature of sexual desire. But, that’s not where I found my answer. God slowly revealed sexual intimacy is spiritual. It’s a quiet discovery that climaxes into the loudest significance.
If you have gleaned any bit of insight from my journey and musings, God gets all the glory. I am so grateful he’s allowed me to be his vessel.
God has more in store for sex talk at OysterBed7. I’m returning to school to work toward my Masters in Family and Marriage Therapy and will continue writing along the way. But, remember until I get that degree I am not a licensed counselor.
For the month of March, I’ll be sending you my favorite posts from the past four years. Posts you may have missed along the way.
The greatest anniversary gift you could give me is to say a prayer that God would grant me the wisdom of Solomon in writing about sexual intimacy in marriage for the low libido wife.
I’m so grateful for you.
I’m proud to be your husband and am honored to share this journey with you!
I am blessed beyond measure to be loved by you. You inspire me to be better. I love you, Mr. Muscle! ( I love when my hubby comments.)
Please continue to send me info on this matter I was sexually traumatized at a very young age and need all the spiritual advice on my sex and marriage I can receive thank you
Tammy, what Satan did God will heal. I am sorry for what you endured. I will add you to the mailing list of future posts.
Thank you much I have been looking for someone to teach me how god looks at sex in marriage and how to be a loving wife without feeling like a sinner or having my bad experience with sex being brought up in times I want to be intimate with my husband it’s all a little too personal for me to put up on sites for everyone to read but I’m looking for a spiritual guide on this subject
This is such a beautiful sentence, Bonny:
“God slowly revealed sexual intimacy is spiritual. It’s a quiet discovery that climaxes into the loudest significance.”
Happy blogversary, my bloggy sister! <3
Thank you! Your friendship is one of the best gifts God bestowed me through this writing ministry. Love you, C.
So happy that you reached this milestone, dear Bonny. This a such a needful site. I’m blessed to have discovered it and thankful to call you friend.
It’s good to hear from you, Gleniece. God gets all the glory. Blessings to you.
Happy blogvesary! I’ve only just found your blog, but am inspired by you and your story. Thank you for sharing it 🙂 Blessings, Bunny
Thanks, Bunny. God gets all the glory. I look forward to getting to know you.
Happy Anniversary! I’m not low libido but thoroughly enjoy reading your blog! Keep up the great work!!
Hey, Robyn!! Thanks. I’m so glad you are here with me.
Happy 4 years! What an amazing milestone in blogging, Bonny.
Thank you, Lori!!!
So glad you have made it this long!
Thank you, Keelie!