For a long while I was not in a good place with sexual intimacy and part of the struggle was trying to reconcile the inner beauty/outer beauty mindset. Scripture seemed to tell me inner beauty was the only thing of value. However, my husband likes me wearing makeup and nice things, which involved my outer beauty. And honestly, I felt better about myself when I spent time on my outer beauty. But, wasn’t this focus on outer beauty a sin?
Can I be both Mother Theresa and Marilyn Monroe (the faithfully married kind)? Is that OK with God? If so, how does that work?
Feeling beautiful is important for every wife, especially those with low-libido. According to my 2015 survey, the number one answer women gave for not desiring sex is because they don’t like how their body looks.
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That was a beautiful article and so timely for me! This is something I struggle with. Not so much anymore b/c I’ve grown past worrying about how others will judge me, but I struggle with the pious Christian women belittling those of us who have the gifting of great genes! (how’s that for politically correct wording?!)
It is unfair to the point of … envy. We don’t tell the intelligent woman not to read too much, lest she overfocus on her brain instead of her heart!
How dare we assume to think or say to a beautiful woman; it’s what inside that really counts, or, be careful not to over focus by spending too much time or money on your beauty.
Yes, some are gifted with good genes (your perfect wording). Acknowledging it and giving God the glory for good work, doesn’t make a pretty person vain, it makes her confident. Isn’t the what Feeling Beautiful is all about? Thanks, Robyn. I always appreciate your comments. 🙂