Clear Your Mind/Cleanse Your Heart

Studies say most all women have the potential to orgasm.  All the equipment is present and in working order.  However, the biggest obstacle to orgasm is the 2 pounds between our ears, our brain.

3 Keys Areas to Pray Over:

Sexual Pollution

Childhood abuse, pre-marital escapades and infidelity are types of sexual pollution that affect us greatly.  I personally believe these are the greatest hindrances to our fully being able to relax during sexual intimacy with our husbands to experience orgasm.

Shannon Etheridge’s book, The Sexually Confident Wife, has an exceptional section called, “Confronting Ghosts from the Past.”  Her words give practical tools for healing.  She shows there is hope to heal completely from abuse.

If you are a Christian and have sinned against your husband, know that you received Christ’s full pardon the moment you repented and asked for forgiveness.  Or, maybe your husband has sinned against you.  Please read J’s (of hotholy&humorous), The Gospel in the Bedroom.  J’s words are a tender reminder of the gracious gift we receive from Christ and should bestow each other.

Pray for your heart to understand you are cleansed.  You can release guilt and shame.  Pray for memories to grow dim and for feelings associated with those memories to fade.  Pray for new, tender sexual experiences with your husband to take the place of the receding memories and feelings from the past.

“He saved us – not by works of righteousness that we had done, but according to His mercy, through the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit,” Titus 3:5.

Renewed connection with your husband.

Renewed connection basically takes time spent together, just the two of you talking, doing, and having fun.  Pray the Lord will help you slow your life down and be able to do more of this.  It’s the key to connection.

Are you embarrassed to be totally naked with your husband even with lights very dim?  The prescription for this is developing a closer connection with your husband.

Are you able to talk about sex with your husband outside of the bedroom?  No?  Pray about the opportunity for a conversation and to have courage.

If this is an area of frustration, pray about your frustration!

Thank the Lord for the many many areas where he has provided blessing within your marriage and relationship with your husband.

Pray you can each captivate the other.

“You have captured my heart, my sister, my bride.You have captured my heart with one glance of your eyes,with one jewel of your necklace,” Song of Solomon 4:9.

Body Awareness

This is a much bigger factor than you realize.  Body Awareness focuses completely on the sensations within your body.  It’s sensual E.S.P.  Body Awareness goes hand in hand with relaxation.

Sheldon Cooper would call Body Awareness, ‘Hokum.’  Believe me, it is not.  However, it is a learned talent.  It’s the ability to turn you mind inward to your body.  You feel a calming drench over you as you release all racing thoughts/to-do-lists and merely focus on the sensations of your body.  You slow the pace of your being and you relax.

For me, I liken it to the Holy Spirit’s peace that passes understanding.  When you perfect body awareness you can go inward in a crowded room.  (It’s great for social anxiety, too!)  But it takes practice.  I’ve written about how to learn it here:  Body Awareness.

Pray that the Lord will allow you to fully accept the peace of the Holy Spirit.  Pray that you will unclench negative or neutral thoughts regarding your marriage bed and replace them with eager thoughts.

Pray the Lord to unlock your garden, unseal your fountain and let your waters flow.

My sister, my bride, you are a locked garden –a locked garden and a sealed spring.Your branches are a paradise of pomegranateswith choicest fruits,henna with nard –nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon,with all the trees of frankincense,myrrh and aloes,with all the best spices.You are a garden spring,a well of flowing waterstreaming from Lebanon,” Song of Solomon 4:12-15.

Final thought

Pray for an orgasm and don’t worry about it.

“Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God,” Philippians 4:6.

Philippians 4:6 tells us we can bring EVERYTHING to the Lord in prayer.  I take this literally.  Some may say that bringing sexual items to the Lord is not respecting and fearing the Lord.  I say, ‘That’s HOKUM.’

He wants our marriages to thrive because healthy marriages help build His Kingdom.  He wants his children to be in unity.  Unity within marriage involves sex.  What better testimony than to tell the world your marriage is thriving because the Lord answered your prayers about sex?  We need to bring God back into sex.  Bringing God back into sex will make the devil flee from sex.  Sex has been the devil’s stronghold for far too long.  If we bring God back into marital sex, maybe he’ll creep into the media’s portrayal of sex and the devil will flee.  Hey, a girl can dream, can’t she?  Besides, our God is Unlimited!

Pray for the Holy Spirit to help this truth sink into your being.

“A Window Into O’s,” look for more in this series:

Introduction: A Window Into O’s
Prayer:  A Window Into O’s
The Plumbing of O’s:The Origin of Orgasm Tissue
The Plumbing of O’s: Labia Love
The Plumbing of O’s:  The Vaginal Vestibule
A Key to Understanding Orgasm:  The Exquisite Clitoris and Company
The “O” Zones: The Delightful Urethral Sponge
A Key to Understanding Orgasm:  Deep Spots
O Explore: understanding your bodies arousal
O Potential:  How the Husband Can Help
Create the Atmosphere for Orgasm (Helpful Hints)

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