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(Husbands, if you are reading, you are invited to pray these scriptures and thoughts over your wives.)
A puppy-faced, adolescent grey male seal is hanging out on the beach where my son lifeguards. The seal is moulting,exchanging a winter coat for something cooler.
He’s the first on record to ever travel this far south.
He’s a ragamuffin. Even in his disheveled and denuded state, he’s still a tad bit more regal than a Chinese crested dog. (no offense to CC owners….)
My son said the seal doesn’t do much, ‘It takes a lot of energy to moult. So, he just lays there.’ Subconsciously, the pup is directing his physical energy to a necessary process.
All change requires energy.
The emotional and physical effort expended to create transformation within a marriage can be overwhelming. What an expenditure if you are a low libido spouse taking the challenge seriously to ramp up the sexual connection! But, it’s so worth it!
Directing energy toward libido enhancement may mean you exercise more, spend more time with your husband, or spend more time in Bible study. But, there’s a trade off in your schedule. You only have so much time in a day. With your shift in priorities, there will be a shift in where you spend your time.
We can’t all take a time out from the world like this seal pup to moult.
For libido renovation, shed activities that don’t enhance your marriage
I adore my sisters in music, the ladies I sing with in my barbershop troupe. Sometimes, they do movies nights or dinners out together. Since Dave travels extensively for business, when he is home he gets my focus. I forgo the girlfriend outings to firm up the connection between the two of us. The last time I declined an invitation a comment was made, “Don’t you love us?” I told them, “Of course, I love you all. But, I love my husband more.”
How do you decide which projects to shed so that energy can be focused for libido renovation? I think the bottom line is asking, ‘Does this honor the Lord?’ If all things honor the Lord, then start down the priority list. If you are in the midst of libido renovation, your first priority will be your hunk-of-a-spouse.
WEEK 22
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is,” Ephesians 5:15-17.
Positive Affirmation
I shed any guilt about not participating in extra activities that occupy my time and don’t build up my marriage. I shed negative beliefs I have about sexual intimacy. I exude sexual energy. I fully accept that sexual intimacy is God-ordained.
This is great advice, Bonny. I’m all about letting go of things that are not very important, yet suck up a lot of our time and energy. I’m in favor of learning to say “no” or “no more” to those things to focus on the things that are really important.