Do you have the same kind of questions as this sweet young friend?
“I’m about to get married next month and I have no clue about sex. What do I do? What will it feel like? Even though I had the sex talk in school, it still all seems very mysterious to me. I’m a virgin. Plus, I’m scared it’s going to hurt. Can you spell out the basics of sex for a nervous Christian bride and give me advice for my wedding night to avoid pain? How do I flip the switch after all these years of, “No!” screaming in my head?”
~ Scared
Are you scared about your wedding night, too? I’ve written a booklet to alleviate all your fears. Like your favorite aunt, I’ll guide you through the process with practical and straight forward answers. This booklet answers how to avoid pain, what will it feel like, what to do, and orgasm, among other topics. It’s great for grooms to read, too!!
This booklet will empower you to enjoy your wedding night to the fullest. Click on the link to get your copy today.
Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers
Thinking about lubricants (to make insertion very easy)? Here’s a post about that! Personal Lubricants 101 (There’s no slip without the slide).
Also, check our podcast, Sex Chat for Christian Wives, for tons of other topics. It’s like a whole bunch of your favorite aunts sitting around the kitchen table talking candidly about marital sexual intimacy, the good, the bad, and the funny.
A Podcast for Your Marriage Bed
Advice for the virgin bride:
1. Take you time. You are just beginning a wonderful journey which as Bonny says, was designed by a good and loving and wise God, in whom dwells no fear. (See I John 4:13-18.)
2. By all means get a vaginal lubricant like KY Jelly.
3. Keep reading and asking questions. Share what you learn with your husband. He will love it.
4. Consult with a “smart and sassy” Christian lady who has been married for a while.
Yes, thank you, Susan!
My advice – Regarding evaluating. I think generally speaking, USUALLY, there is no such thing as “bad sex” to a man. So it’s awkward for a while. He still enjoys it.
Now – you need to enjoy it too, and sometimes that takes some work, but at least free your mind from carrying the additional burden (as I sometimes did as a virgin bride) of worrying too much about how much HE is enjoying it. I mean ask questions and get the basics figured out – and then relax.
Maybe Bonny can correct me on this if I’m wrong. 🙂 I think my husband would pretty much agree.
Excellent advice! Yes, your man going to think you are wonderful! No correcting from me.
‘The Good Girl’s Guide’ is very helpful, especially when it normalized the idea that it was going to take some time before things got good. It did take time. Today my husband and I can laugh about that first week! However, after three years of marriage, sometimes I still feel that I am a ‘bad girl’. All I have to do, then, is tell my husband how I’m feeling, and he tells me how glad he is that I’m so ‘bad’. Then I feel better!
Thank you for this resource! She is referencing Sheila Gregoire’s book which you can find on Find on Amazon here.