What words do you think of in regards to low libido or sexual interest? Ever thought about that?
With the new year, I see questions everywhere asking, “Have you chosen a word?” or, “What’s your word this year?” (Back in 2012, Mike Ashcraft ,who preaches in Wilmington, NC, and Rachel Olsen published a book with the premise that one word could change your life, called My One Word. I haven’t read this book, but it seems to have started a cultural phenomenon.)
Yeah, I’ve chosen words through the years and they have been meaningful. Two biggies for me were “light” and “surrender.” I surrendered a lot of false beliefs about sex in my journey to find my sexual interest. Plus, my move to south Florida was a complete act of surrender.
But, I had a thought about another way words can change your outlook.
What’s your middle name?
There is a phrase that is a part of my country-girl vocabulary that has to do with personal characteristics. For example, I have a girlfriend who is a single mom and through the years has had at least 10 surgeries, breast cancer, children in jail, children in the Chinese mission field for years, and now she is raising her granddaughter. Her attitude is amazing. She relies on God through all of her concerns. She’s light-hearted and takes each day as it comes. Fortitude and perseverance are her middle names.
There is something very identifying by saying these characteristics are part of her name. Names are such an integral part of who we are. Adding a powerful “middle name” of our choosing can help us grow into that characteristic (ever heard the term self-fulfilling prophecy? There’s actually something to that.) Think of all the names of God!
I know that most of you are loyal readers because you struggle with feeling great about sexual intimacy. What if for 2019 you choose a middle name to help you with your sex drive transformation?
It could be something as obvious as, “Sexy is my middle name,” or something that describes the way you want to overcome obstacles. For example, if you want to be more responsive, “Arousal is my middle name.” Even, “Orgasmic is my middle name.”
Think about your specific struggle and find a corresponding positive word that would counter it.
Yes, it is light-hearted and that is OK. A lot of time, we need to lighten up!
Besides, it’s true! Words have great power. After all, God spoke the world into existence. The way we describe ourselves and talk to ourselves both inside our heads and out loud to others influences our realities.
That’s why Paul says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things,” Philippians 4:8.
No better time than now to find your sexual interest.
In 2012, I found a study about the power of words. It is the foundation for my guidebook, “Unlock Your Libido: 52 Week Sex Drive Transformation.” It’s a simple premise readers have told me gave them results.
It helps the wife with low sexual interest uncover aspects of her inner sensuality. There are 52 easy and fun topics, corresponding scripture, and positive thoughts that you think about each week.
It’s called unlock your libido because chances are your interest in sex is still in there! It just needs help finding freedom.
Check out this link for my ebook, “Unlock Your Libido: 52 Week Sex Drive Transformation.”
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